Digital Era Parenting: Tips to Uphold Kids’ Mental Health
There has been much critical discourse about the escalating children’s mental health crisis relative to how benchmarks like stress, anxiety and loneliness are driving depression and other serious psychological conditions amongst youth populations like never before. Of course, children are not the only ones suffering, as parents and caregivers struggle to prevent, address and treat concerns in order to uphold kids’ emotional well-being. In this process, the adults themselves are suffering in kind—often exacerbating their own mental and emotional struggles amid the copious complexities of modern life. This, of course, has a litany of macro-economic implications. As one case in point, a Morgan Stanley Alliance for Children's Mental Health research report cited that six in ten of those who are concerned say their children’s mental health has impacted them negatively, with nearly half of those indicating it has affected their productivity at work. The report goes on to reveal that fully 48% of working parents who reported concern said their children’s mental health has impacted their performance at work in some way—including having to deal with disruptions and an inability to concentrate on the job. Some concerned working parents have considered reducing their working hours to support their child(ren) while others have even considered quitting their jobs altogether. Relative to the role Internet use, specifically, plays into the children’s mental health crisis, other reported research from the Child Mind Institute found approximately half of parents polled expressed concern over the impact of internet use on cognitive, social and emotional development. “In today's digital age, parents are tasked with navigating an ever-evolving technology landscape to address and safeguard their kids’ mental health while also balancing work and parenting—an endeavor that has become a daunting—often seemingly impossible—task that’s ushered in an era of pressure-driven parenting,” says Neuropsychologist, American Mothers New York State “Mother of the Year” award recipient and Brilliant Minds Unite Founder Dr. Jatali Bellanton—author of Kidpreneurs and founder of the Kids Who Bank financial literacy program deployed in hundreds of elementary schools across the United States. “It is certainly possible for kids to thrive and deeply benefit from technological advancements. But, parents and caregivers must wholeheartedly commit to not just monitor such usage and activities, but also achieve and sustain healthy boundaries away from screens and buttons—both the kids and the adults. The key is to fill that tech downtime with activities that foster connectivity to, and a reverence for, ‘real world’ experiences. And, when technology is in use, to remain hyper observant and aware ensure it’s not impeding the child’s mental health in any way whether before, during or after. If red flags present, however minor, it’s imperative to address them immediately.” Social media has long been a culprit of compromising kids’ mental health. A new American Psychological Association health advisory on social media use in adolescence offers the following scientific evidence-based recommendations:
1. Youth using social media should be encouraged to use functions that create opportunities for social support, online companionship, and emotional intimacy that can promote healthy socialization.
2. Social media use, functionality, and permissions/consenting should be tailored to youths’ developmental capabilities; designs created for adults may not be appropriate for children.
3. In early adolescence (i.e., typically 10–14 years), adult monitoring (i.e., ongoing review, discussion, and coaching around social media content) is advised for most youths’ social media use; autonomy may increase gradually as kids age and if they gain digital literacy skills. However, monitoring should be balanced with youths’ appropriate needs for privacy.
4. To reduce the risks of psychological harm, adolescents’ exposure to content on social media that depicts illegal or psychologically maladaptive behavior, including content that instructs or encourages youth to engage in health-risk behaviors, such as self-harm (e.g., cutting, suicide), harm to others, or those that encourage eating-disordered behavior (e.g., restrictive eating, purging, excessive exercise) should be minimized, reported, and removed;23 moreover, technology should not drive users to this content.
5. To minimize psychological harm, adolescents’ exposure to “cyberhate” including online discrimination, prejudice, hate, or cyberbullying especially directed toward a marginalized group (e.g., racial, ethnic, gender, sexual, religious, ability status),22 or toward an individual because of their identity or allyship with a marginalized group should be minimized.
6. Adolescents should be routinely screened for signs of “problematic social media use” that can impair their ability to engage in daily roles and routines, and may present risk for more serious psychological harms over time.
7. The use of social media should be limited so as to not interfere with adolescents’ sleep and physical activity.
8. Adolescents should limit use of social media for social comparison, particularly around beauty- or appearance-related content.
9. Adolescents’ social media use should be preceded by training in social media literacy to ensure that users have developed psychologically-informed competencies and skills that will maximize the chances for balanced, safe, and meaningful social media use.
10. Substantial resources should be provided for continued scientific examination of the positive and negative effects of social media on adolescent development.
Dr. Bellanton, also a technology futurist and leading Metaverse influencer, has some additional valuable insights into how parents can navigate this tricky, ever-changing terrain—especially for younger elementary-age children.
1. Ditch rigid schedules. While it's essential to have some structure in your child's daily routine, it's equally important to provide flexibility. Instead of imposing a strict, timed schedule on your child's educational or other activities, Dr. Bellanton recommends creating a more relaxed and flexible approach that fits around the parents’ work schedule.
2. Create safe folders for YouTube videos and shows that your child is allowed to watch. With the abundance of inappropriate content available on the internet, it can be challenging to monitor what your child is watching. However, by creating special YouTube folders and streaming media playlists on Netflix and the like, parents can control the content their children consume and avoid unnecessary worry.
3. Introduce your children to hobbies that require the use of different parts of the brain. Whether it's sculpting, painting, or physical activities that teach children how to utilize new tools, engaging in a hobby at least once every other day can help children develop new skills and foster creativity.
4. Create a star chart system is another effective way to incentivize and reward children for doing things that do not involve digital devices. For instance, parents can reward their children for cleaning, reading, or playing outside, instead of spending time on screens.
5. Parents can also take advantage of the metaverse by teaching their children how to build and make money through playing video games. Children can be introduced to games that allow them to learn how to make money and build skills while playing.
7. Have conversations with children about online predators and to teach them to be cautious when playing games like Roblox. Parents should also pay attention to the music played in games, as some songs may contain inappropriate lyrics.
8. Put timers on devices to limit screen time. Parents can set a specific amount of time for their children to watch videos or play games on their devices, ensuring they have a healthy balance of screen time and other activities.
Parenting in the digital age is a challenge that requires a multifaceted and highly concerted approach with tactical strategies that must be employed with intention and upheld with consistency. Doing so will allow families to embrace the litany of benefits the digital age affords and use them to derive emotional and lifestyle advantages versus impairments. Sources:
https://www.morganstanley.com/articles/childrens-mental-health-effect-on-parents
https://www.morganstanley.com/articles/family-internet-use-survey
https://www.apa.org/topics/social-media-internet/health-advisory-adolescent-social-media-use About the Expert After 9.5 years in investment banking, and 4.5 years in forensic accounting, Jatali decided to leave the corporate world in order to share her years of financial experience to help the young and ambitious gain business knowledge to build successful careers from doing what they love which has formed into 6 years of her teaching youth in various systems worldwide, including in Ghana, Kenya, etc. Among her corporate business accomplishments, Jatali restructured and managed accounting departments towards multi-million-dollar profits and clientele growth while lowering costs. She helped companies survive global shifts towards online business by implementing new software programs to replace outdated communication. As a financial consultant for a medical practice, she increased profit margins by 42% in just one year. In March 2015, Jatali gave birth to her first child, which, little did she know, would lead her to create a youth financial literacy initiative by the name Kids Who Bank. The limited offerings of financial literacy books for children, when in search for her son, inspired her to write a story formatted finance book for youth, and also create a finance curriculum, thus starting her journey of becoming an entrepreneur. In Kids Who Bank, Jatali strives to inspire children to continue following their dreams. She is passionate about combining her business expertise with her desire to give all children a fair chance to succeed in life. Jatali has donated over $40,000 to schools worldwide to help students pay for their education, school supplies, backpacks, and books. She is committed to incorporating financial and business education into school curricula. Also notable, she was awarded the 2019 New York State Mother Of The Year award. Jatali coordinated the “2nd Annual Kidpreneur Awards Gala" on April 7th, 2019, recognizing the entrepreneurial and philanthropic pursuits of bright minds across the nation.
